Ways to Relieve Yourself , of Shoulder and Neck Pain. 1, Melissa Sophia Joy, N.D., says to stretch out those parts of your body throughout the day. 2, Look into OTC pain relief cream. Massage therapists recommend using arnica gel. 3, Take a break from your computer by going for a short walk. 4, Use a golf ball or tennis ball to relieve tension in your back. 5, Adjust your computer monitor's height or try a standing desk. . 6, Try essential oils for neck and shoulder pain. 7, Get a massage or use self-meditation and relaxation techniques